We’re fighting again? It’s never really about the dishes.
Understanding each other isn’t enough.
Most couples leave therapy knowing why they fight and still continue to have the same fight. I work on what happens in your nervous systems in the moment, so you can catch the pattern while it’s happening. I draw on PACT, the Gottman Method, Imago and Emotionally Focused Therapy, and use what fits the two of you.
The pattern-first approach
- 1Map the loop. We name the cycle you keep landing in, and what each of you is protecting.
- 2Catch it in the room. When it starts in session, we slow it down and try a different move together.
- 3Take it home. You leave with one or two skills to practice, not a binder of techniques.